It can be easy to take our relationships for granted. After all, if we are blessed to bear children, by default, we are related to them, but this does not mean we have an automatic relationship. Building a relational legacy requires building capacity and intentionality in our relationships.
Building Relational Capacity
Our busy lives leave relationships sometimes at the bottom of the rung on the pages of our lives as we scurry and hurry to check all our boxes on our to-do’s, which, let’s face it, relationships do not always make that list.
To build a relational legacy, we need to create space in our days, moments captured each day to connect with loved ones. It’s not something we tack on or do out of duty; rather, it’s when we create space that we have the capacity to nurture our relationships and closeness with loved ones.
We have all heard of someone who says they never really knew someone they were related to. While we don’t have the capacity to know everyone really well, building space for a sphere of people who matter to you will require intentionality and planning time for them.
Building Relational Intentionality
It is difficult when other people have schedules and busy lives, too, but finding ways to connect with people in your inner circle will take intentionality and creativity. Each person will have different ways they like to relate to you. Perhaps there are common interests, or maybe we defer to their desires. Building a relational legacy works best when our intentions are not about us.
Intentions are not the same as actions, though. Having an action plan and regular time to devote to loved ones helps to ensure that your intentions are well laid out and met.
Building a Relational Legacy
Who are the first five people you think of when building a relational legacy? Start there and consider how you have invested in these relationships. Relationships are not a once-and-done. They require consistent nurturing and are a worthy investment that matters past this life.
Relationships are also a significant part of our estate planning. In the Stewardship Legacy planning process, we help you recognize gaps in your planning and perhaps steps that can be made in your relationships, as well, to prepare potential heirs for after you are gone.
Please let us know if we can help you with your planning and how relationships impact that planning. Feel free to contact us to schedule a free consultation.
